Doc, I'm impressed with your W's honesty. I would fall out of my chair if my W ever said something so honest and intimate. Moving back in the bedroom is a significant step forward.
I would be thinking about how you can help her be more proud of her body. I know you have some physical limitations, but options still exist.
In my case, I'm the one that is more organized and disciplined, so provide the reminders to attend exercise classes twice per week. Once she's there, she's glad she came. I let her know about the tone I'm seeing develop from the classes.
I know that ultimately she's responsible for her own health and body image, but if there's something you can say or do (probably repeatedly), than provide the influence to move her in the direction she wants to go (teaching a child to ride a bicycle).
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
