Yeah, I was afraid of this when I posted to you that "something on her trip caused her to pull back." I'm so sorry, CP -- I know how this feels, and "stabbed" is a pretty good description.
I know you don't feel it right now, but there IS a positive to this, in that it (an affair) does help explain nearly all of your wife's behaviors since you started posting to us. Her conflicting feelings towards you, if affected by the chemical rush of an addiction to OM (and it is exactly that -- an addiction) are now, in hindsight, all easily explained.
My advice for you right now is NOT to do ANYTHING for the next 24-48 hours, other than post here and gather more intel. You only get ONE SHOT at this, and even tho I tell EVERYONE that, nearly everyone goes off half-cocked and BLOWS it.
You also might want to see if you can circle back and update your attorney on this latest development.
