1. If you tried it for a year and you didn't turn aruond you were using the wrong FT... a GOOD FT is giong to make sure you stick to your guns 2. To my mind there are VERY FEW valid reasons for divorce... There are LOTS of valid reasons to go to family therapy or to be dissatisfied with the marriage, but no, I do not think there are a lot of VALID REASONS to pursue divorce.. particularly wtih teh wrecklessness your wife is diong it... DUDE... She's pursuing OTHER MEN while she's still married AND LIVING with YOU... Do you honestly think that's an indicator that her EMOTIONAL HEALTH is top NOTCH right now?
UNTIL she is emotionally STABLE she should NOT be PURSUING ANY OTHER MAN... She's just trying to FILL the VOID that is there because you aren't meeting all of her needs right now...
I KNOW, she won't ACCPET that right now... well, she's got to go WITHOUT those needs being met and NOT PURSUE OTHER MEN with wreckless abaondon to fill that avoid... YOU aren't getting YOUR needs met you aren't prowling the singles bars are you?
She's not emotionally stable and the solutino to that is family therapy... NOT DIVORCE...
Sorry, No valid reasons.. you aren't selling her BS to me... I refuse to buy her excuses...
FT is the solution to this... NOT divorce.
If you backslid then SHE allowed it...
Problems in marriages aer SHARED...
If you were using porn for five years... its 50-50 becuase SHE ALLOWED you to do that etc
the only reason I would advocate divorce is violence or emotional abuse (and no, the odd shouting match isn't abuse, that's just two immature people who don't know how to negotiate)
Sorry QS.. you are starting to sound like HER...
Maybe she can sell that BS to her mother and even you... but I AM NOT BUYING IT...
