Need a Plan for My Marriage

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Had an argument with wife the other night:

When we were at counseling, and the counselor was validating her in every way. There was so much bias in the sessions. When W told me at counseling that I am in love with you but I am not in love with you I walked out because I was devastated by this. She says that since I walked that was the reason that she had the affair. She did not intend to divorce me. She also said she will not get married again or to the OM. She said it just happened. I told her it just does not happen, and that she let it happen.

She said I will never get the kids because of my earning potential, and she did not agree to me taking care of the kids. I told her that it does not matter whether we agreed or not. She said I will not even make it to court. I told her we have a hearing, and it will go to court. She said if it keeps up that it will not. She said that she could have kicked me to the curb 3 years ago. I told it would be no different than it is now.

She validates her affair in everyway possible. I did not budge and validate the garbage she was saying.

She said that she made a "choice." I told her that she made a choice for her, not me and the kids. I told her I have "choice", and I will not stay married in a relationship with infidelity.

She said I should have let her continue to TM OM, and that she was doing nothing wrong. I told her it was an affair, and it was wrong.

I told her she has already damaged our kids. I told her that my son prays for our family all the time. I told her that he says our family is "messed up". She said that she wants a house and a dog for the kids. She cannot wait any longer, and that is what the kids want. I told what the kids want is their family to stay together, and none of the other matters to them, and it won't when they are older either.

We had a decent fourth of July with no arguing or fighting, but D does not respect W and fights with her all the time. This is because of the A I believe, and it is only getting worse. S want moms attention, and he is hurt, but she just justifies her actions.

It is a load of BS.