I am hoping that the FT is plannign on leading your H into confiding in her, which may take three to four weeks and THEn teh FT will set to task to work with your H for a few more weeks helping him to bring you into the loop... This takes time... I don't expect your H to spill his beans in his first hour there... A good FT is not going to push him, a GOOD FT is giong to establish TRUST and HOPE first and THEN educate him...
