Remember the "don't be a friend" piece from the guerilla db video? You did sit with her mom and show it to her right? You did make a point of that piece right so they don't empathize with her and all that crap?
She is miserable QS.. you have seen that now... The problem is that's HER miserable feelings, this does NOT mean the marriage is miserable. Her conviction about divorce validates the escape... the fact that she is so convinced of divorce without the slightest REASON behind it pretty much confirms she's escaping and miserable and thinks divorce is going to make ehr feel better...
It won't... If she esapes into divorce and moves on she will marry again and run... AGAIN... When things get bad...
This is what happens... Did you know the divorce rate goes UP for second and third marriages? Its a LOT HIGHER.. why? WOuldn't you think people would LEARN something the first time?
No
The people who learn something don't RUN when things get bad.. they do teh work like you are...
The people who marry a second or third, or fourth time don't LEARN... they get miserable and they escape.. tha'ts their default solution they learned to use when things get unbearable...
Also... yes you will have to work more on her mother... You were warned she would run her own slant on things and try to sell divorce... Clearly her mother has NOT watched the video or is ignoring it... This is exactly why I wanted you to sit with them.. to make sure they don't "be a friend" and enable this BS of her's...
And yes, your efforts were stressing her out.. that's what you WANT.. It's forcing to her rethink her escape fantasy.. It's forcing her mind to accept an image of her marriage she has been trying to convince herslef will never happen... You are showing her that marriage with you CAN be enjoyable... and right NOW she doens't want to HEAR that because its ruining her escape and making her feel GUILTY... got it?
This is what is SUPPOSED to happen when you db well...
She IS miserable, her mother IS enabling her, and your efforts DO make a difference...
You just have to trust us man... This does NOT always work, but its the best game in town if you want to beat this thing... You just have to have some confidence in yourself that she's in there and that you are getting to her.. you ARE... But her mom may be enabling her at this point...
