IB, three years later and I still don't know what the heck his reasons were.
We were still intimate, still all wrapped around each other watching tv and he had just given me a beautiful card tellig me he wants to make me happy forever. Two weeks later, the bomb.
It drove me nuts for a long time not knowing what happened. Until I realized, it happened to him.
Look deep inside and think about the things you want to change; about you, about how you live your life, about what you have always wanted to do. Then begin to do that.
I know it is hard to accept this right now. I know it hurts. I know there are days when you think you are going out of your mind. But please believe me when I tell you, you will get through this. You will.
What is important now is you and your children. And if they see you are ok, they will be, too. They are watching you now. Very closely. Show them how to get through rough times in life. Show them how to act with strength and dignity.
And take care of you.
Please try not to have those conversations with your h. He sees them as pursuing, as you not getting it and they will just upset you.
Everything your h has said, almost everyone on here has heard some variation.
That's why it's best to just leave him be. Let him take this journey.
And if you really want to get through this, you have to start on yours. Detaching comes to everyone at different times. It is very difficult, but very necessary.
So, tomorrow you start fresh. You can do this. One day at a time.
