Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[Quicksilver264]

Thank you Allen. Your words have given me hope.

I definitely need to talk to her mom, but it appears my wife is running counter-DB on her mom. I do need to find a way to get her to that retro weekend. This is going to be tough because her mom says "she is stuck in the middle". I also feel like her mom may be letting on what I tell her, and also sympathizing with my wife too much.


I know I shouldn't have had that talk with her BUT:

I felt COMPLETELY in control, and not overwhelmed with emotion. I said what I only wanted to, and DID NOT REACT. I used the phrases you gave me, and some others on here.

However, SHE APPROACHED ME! I set the terms of the talk, and I ended it at a time of my own choosing.

Still, she was 1000% set on the divorce. "I have never been more CERTAIN of anything in my life" she said. She feels like a divorce and moving on is the only VIABLE alternative.

But I was able to have such a calm conversation and keep in control. I never disagreed with her feelings, and didn't try to change her mind.

I guess what I am doing has been working. It may not have changed her mind one bit, BUT SHE HAS NOTICED ME!!!! Although, she says that noticing doesn't make a bit of difference. But that must count for something I guess.