The main thing is that they aren't happy and are trying to figure out what that means and how to get there. At least that's the bottom line answer I've taken from all this. Yes, he did/does have complaints that are valid (who doesn't after so many years together). Like Twink says so beautifully though,
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The things I'm working on are things for ME, and I don't give a rat's behind if they include what H's complaint was or not.
I know you aren't here yet. It takes all of us varying amounts of time to get to a place where WE really come first.
I know that feeling of walking on eggshells b/c you don't want to piss them off or rock the boat. I finally came to the realization "What's he going to do...leave me?" He'd already done that. Now the only thing he can do is D me, and in his heart he already has. That's worse than anything legal, at least in my mind.
As hard as it is, any step you can take towards being the best you, for you, is the best you can do. It will give you strength, peace and confidence. It takes time (sick of hearing that yet?)and patience. It can be hard won, but nothing will serve you better, regardless of the outcome with him.
