Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[Quicksilver264]

You are right to a point TimeHeals.

I am in the process of dropping the rope. But I still have hope my marriage will work out. I just have ALOT of pain to work through. But Alan was right about all that negative talk coming from her. That still gives me hope.


She saw apartment guides I had, and asked me about them. I said I was trying to start moving on with my life. And then she said she hadn't been sure if I had accepted that she was 1000% sure about the divorce.

It then turned into a relationship talk WHERE I SHOULD HAVE WALKED AWAY, but she said some things that have helped me start to achieve closure.

She is REALLY REALLY REALLY sure about this divorce. I have NEVER seen her so sure of anything. Everything she was upset about tonight is because "of what her life could have been". AND NOT WITH ME ANYMORE.

She says she wishes she could have all that RIGHT NOW, just with someone else.

She says she needs space to heal, and that she doesn't want me around at all. She says that she has become a different person, and that she can't ever see us being together.

"Maybe down the road after we both have healed and time has passed if we are meant to be together".

All in all what I got from it is that I am simply no longer the person she wants ANYTHING from. She is thinking of taking another job so she can be away permanently.

Now I REALLY saw the level of gone that she really is. This really hurts so bad.

But I am hoping and praying that Alan is right about all the negative talk, and that what I have done so far is starting to make her question internally what she is doing.

But from everything she said to me, her mom, and her friends - and all her actions - she is GONE and wants this divorce more than anything.