To change WHAT??? I don't even know what the main thing is!!! I don't know if I am crazy or insane or what - how do I not know??? Am I the only one who is shocked by all of this - or did everyone see it coming but me? If so, where have I been - asleep, in denial, what?????
Irish, I didn't know what the main problem was, either. Still don't, even though I asked. I was just as shell-shocked as you. What your H said is script. I got it, too. Without telling me what the main issue was, my H told me that he didn't speak up because he didn't think "it" could change. Essentially the same thing your H said to you. I suspect that they don't give us a straight answer because even they don't know what made them run.
At first, it was torture to not have that answer. I thought that I NEEDED it to move forward, to work on myself, to change. Now I realize it really doesn't matter at all. The things I'm working on are things for ME, and I don't give a rat's behind if they include what H's complaint was or not.
Irish, it is what it is RIGHT NOW, and you need to be present NOW. Not looking back and trying to figure out what you didn't see or didn't know, but looking forward to deal with the situation as it is, and working toward being the best Irish possible. Then, no matter what happens with your H, you will be whole.
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
