Help - Is H coming Around?

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SD,

I'm not sure if this would help, but I'll share with you my experience

While I was physically separated from my H for 3 months,
I initiated contact with H almost everyday, as I felt it is important to let him know i love him and is there with him. I felt that my H was having a MLC since he was going to give up on our M for a married woman.

While physically apart, I made sure we skyped regularly and even agreed to do stuff for H on skype to arouse him. I thought these were good for our M and to reassure him of my love.

2 months into the separation I came back on H's suggestion for a weekend. We had sex on the first night and on the 2nd night, he told me he had started to see the OW, the reason he wanted a separation in the first place, and that there is no chance of us reconciling. I cried for a whole week after that.

I've finally decided to let go knowing that i've done all I can for our M and. I learning to accept that I can't control H's decision but I can control how I would react to it. It is for my best benefit to let go and look after myself. I've no felt this peaceful for the last 6 mths.

And do tell your friends and family about your sitch so they can support you. I realised how valuable friends are and i'm surrounding myself with them and it is doing me a tonne of good.

Like i said, i'm not sure if this is helpful for you. But I would like you to know that many of us here have gone through what you're going through. And there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.