I believe that God can transform any life and situation but the desire has to be there in our respective spouses to change. Or something of cataclysmic proportions has to rock their world.
Dobson speaks about lifting the cage door on the trapped spouse but we also lift the cage door on ourselves. When we set them free, we set the drama free and set the fear free. Those are things that can imprison us.
Having spent so much time fighting for my M, I am now fighting for myself. Why was I so afraid of having Mr. K leave? He had essentially left in many ways.
I was ashamed and embarassed at the thought of everyone knowing my M had ended. But I have done nothing to be ashamed and embarassed about. I am proud that I tried. I don't even feel sad now but I guess there's time for that?
