I am NOT telling you to argue at length with her... I am telling you to CALL her on her BS and then WALK AWAY...

SImply tell her she's ignorant of what she's talking about and YOU have done the research... There's walls full of published material on infidelity and the harm divorce does to children... Tell her you have done the appropriate research and she needs to get INFORMED before she shoots her mouth off and WALK AWAY...