The anger phase DOES pass... it can vary from 2 weeks to a few months... But it does pass...
You need to stop fixating on what she's saying, and tell your mother to ignore the negative cynical commentary too.. This is RIGHT OUT OF THE BOOK MAN... RIGHT OUT OF THE BOOK... IGNORE 100% of the negative stuff they throw at you... And keep fighting...
Keep your mother in the loop.. be VERY careful that your wife does NOT hear or find out about the term divorcebusting or she will be here and read ALL of your threads... do NOT expect the mods to remove them... I've been there.. they won't...
It's ok to post here, just don't share anything to do with MWD with your wife or leave her book lying around for your wife to find it... particularly since you both live together you need to be wary of your wife snooping and finding the book... It HAS happened on here... be warned
Your wife is likley wearning something that makes HER FEEL GOOD.. Don't assume what she's doing has ANYTHING to do with you... because it doesn't... Sh'es 100% focussed on how she feels right at this moment and acting on that... zero logic, zero long term planning... totaly impulse driven choices...
If she's doing something it's because that's how she feels... she feels miserable internally and all her output she throws around confirms that... the more negative she talks, the more miserable she feels internally.. even if she's putting a bright smile on you need to gauge her mood from how she's talking.. NEGATIVE talk = negative mood
And again you certainly do not want to take to HEART the negative talk which is 100% based on her current MOOD...
That's NOT logic or forethought there... which is what people should be employing when considering divorce... NOT their current MOOD
I feel miserable at work sometimes too, but I don't walk OUT because of it... because logically I know its NOT a good idea...
