I thank everyone for their help through this - I feel badly taking so much of everyone's time when I've now decided I'm done.
I'm letting my H go. I really can't take holding on anymore. It's destroying my health and preventing me from enjoying the time I have with my daughter. I just can't continue with this.
I'm going to accept this and just move on . . . you never know. It may be over and it might not be over - I'll update if we end up reconciling someday.