These are in MWD's book Divorce Remedy, but I felt they had to be posted as a reminder, i have seen a lot of instances of not remembering these powerful warnings Michele offers on pp 139-140 of her Text
Mandatory Don'ts When Divorce Busting
1. Do not be openly desperate or needy even when you are hurting more than ever in your whole life and are despreate and needy.
2. Do not focus on yourself when communicating with your spouse.
3. Do not believe any of what you hear and less than 50% of what you see. Your spouse will speak in absolute negatives because s/he is hurting and scared.
4. Do not give up no matter how dark it is or how bad you feel.
5. Do not backslide from your hard-earned changes.
These warnings are well worth heeding, and certainly worth my taking the time to type them out and put them up here for everyone as a reminder.
I have read so many cases here of people failing to follow these warnings... and it DOES do damage when you don't heed these warnings. Damage that is reparable, but damage that does add to the work of winning your marriage back.
And no one wants to divorce-bust any longer than they absolutely have to.
