They ALL say soemthing to this effect yes... they do NOT all eventually change no... Some run off and marry the OW only to have THAT fail and by then the LBS has moved on... THAT is what happens when they choose to see things through completely...
It's not him being a horrible person.. he's immature and has chosen to pursue a destructive addiction to help him escape from emotions he isn't emotionally devleoped enough to manage safely...
In short, he's a child with a firearm...
Do not throw in the towel...
First you need to get a SIGNATURE that summarizes your situation so people can help you better
Then you need to detail here your exposure script... talking about "the wrong way to end the marriage" is NOT the way to expose anythign... if that's what you are asking people to say to him you are risking losing this marriage permanently...
There are four key points you want to make here to exposure groups
a. You want to save your marriage b. Infidelity is harmful to the marriage and the family c. The Infidelity must end in order to repair the marriage d. Ask for support from your friends and family to encourage your H to come to his senses...
How can they help?
Going over points a - c above with your H first off.. and NOT ARGUING with him... Just state the points above and HANG UP
Do NOT ARGUE or NEGOTIATE with someone addicted to a fantasy relationship... Just state your position and CLOSE the DOOR
The success rate of affair couples long term is less than 1%... IT won't LAST
your H must hear from his friends and his family
"We will NEVER ACCEPT OW as part of this family, you are unwelcome in our home and we will not socialize with you until you end your affair"
If they are going around telling him this is the "wrong way" to "end a marriage" they are just doing damage to yoru chances...
They are TELLING your H that his marriage is OVER.. is that way you want HIM to think?
Oi veih
YOU need to stop listening to his garbage excuses... Have you READ divorce remendy? Did you read the FIRST PARAGRAPH of the book?
