Ok so I've exposed to everyone who could possibly have an impact or cause him pressure, but the problem is that he seems to be oblivious to pressure. He told me through an email that he failed in the marriage because he never advocated for himself or his needs, and that I was not to blame for the breakup of the marriage. But then he also said that his affair was NOT a failure, that it was the first time he ever advocated for himself and he was making his OWN path and he felt very confident and good about that choice. He is entirely comfortable with that aspect of things, and no matter who tells him it was the wrong way to end the marriage, he just simply won't believe them. He says he feels very empowered and strong and good about that decision.
Do they all say this and eventually they change? Or is this guy just a horrible person who will never really take responsibility for his actions and I need to just throw in the towel?
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
