That's his choices... NO NEGOTIATING... you cannot negotiate with an addict... Have you even found a GOOD FAMILY THERAPIST yet? Not a shrink or psychotherapist.. a family therapist?
You do NOT try to negotiate an addict into going to family therapy with you, YOU GO to set a good example and STAY NO CONTACT with him so he isnt' cake eating
Then you continue exposure with friends and family about what he's doing to the family... Encourage them to pressure him to end his affair...
If all of his friends and family reject him and tell him outright OW will NEVER be welcome in their home he will be pressed to think long and hard about what he's doing...
You really do need to setup a signature so everyone can keep in the loop... you will get more responses that way
