I asked her how she was able to have this external R during our marriage and it was ok??? She said it's not the same, "I don't talk with him while your around"... HA!!!!
You may want to point out that you took the call while she WAS around, because you had absolutely nothing to hide in its content. (unless there's more to this OW relationship than what you're telling us here???)
That your phone calls, your e-mail, and your phone's text messages are A COMPLETE OPEN BOOK to her (altho I would give my atty a separate e-mail address now, if you're going to communicate that way), and that you are completely transparent with her and invite her to do the same if she's serious.
