Best at this point to do the "smile and wave" that SmileysPerson used to post here about, and let attorneys deal with the legalities of splitting of personal property. If you want to reach an AMICABLE proposal for the splitting of the property, before presenting it to attys, then do so via e-mail and without bringing the R into it (but I don't recommend this).
Yes, you made a big tactical mistake by taking that call, but there's absolutely no moral equivalency of that and your wife's ongoing emotional affair (if that's all it was). Do NOT accept her premise.
