I'm glad you took a nice long bike ride. It helps to clear the cobwebs from your mind out in the fresh air.

They all think that the divorce decree will solve all of their problems. Even though it's just a piece of paper, it still hurts for those who fought the good fight. The MLCer doesn't have a clue that life really doesn't change for them after it is finalized because they left the relationship emotionally many months before they dropped the bomb. The euphoria of this "new found" freedom will last a short while and then real life will settle them down once again.

I have to say that the comment your h made about this may be a mistake but he has to try it, must be a normal mlc comment. My xh said the same thing.

I understand just how you feel. I do hope that you have plans for today and can put your problems aside for just a little while and enjoy the day.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.