I also saw the potential but refused to see the baggage - namely EVERY man on his father's side had either abandonned or divorced his wife by age 50 since the Civil War. His parents were separated when we got married, and each brought their current lover to the wedding. All four of them stood in the front pew staring daggers at each other.
My mother warned me and warned me but I refused to see it, was SO sure I was the exception. What I was was exceptionally naive!
Originally Posted By: Twink
The "golden years" that I had looked forward to are now quite tarnished. I know I can find some polish somewhere, though, and with a little elbow grease, they should brighten up.
I agree. It's hard being "thrown for a loop" after this many years, but I'm finally starting to realize just how much I gave up for him. Now it's time to get that back, to realize my own potential. I can't keep him from hitting rock bottom. But I don't have to go there with him...
