my story - gone, back, gone, back again? help

[Dayana]

hi Purple
So nice to hear from someone in a similar situation although I am not happy to hear that someone is going through it.

Well I believe he has gone back to OW this weekend because he is giving me the silent treatment - that's usually the signal. He has been begging me to have him back for weeks, crying etc, but not wanting to do anything proactive or positive to earn back trust. I have been holding up my boundaries, but now I think he is back with her, I feel my strength dissolving and I feel like saying OK just come back on your terms. But I don't know if I can really live with him again as he is so overpowering in an emotional sense and so draining. He just sits back and lets me take responsibility for it all.

I promised myself that if he went back to her again without trying things with me properly then I would definitely call it quits as I am tired of being in this madness. But now I don't feel so sure. If I let him move in, maybe he would make more effort? Who knows.

But perhaps it is too late and he has gone again.

I wonder if yours will book counselling. My H refuses -says he doesn't believe in it.
Let me know how it goes.