My parents are staying this weekend, so a bit more stress than ever, but also some good times. W saw me reading "Codependent No More" and asked if I thought we were CD. I told her I saw a lot of my behaviour described by it. I'm having a lot of fun with my folks, and doing things for myself. She's seeing me do a lot of things that I used to resist, and I'm sure that triggers her doubts. But, I'm not doing them for her, but for myself. For an old, stubborn, stick in the mud, I'm trying to just let go of the urge to control everything. And with our children, I'm just supporting W's decisions instead of trying to undercut her.
Of course, there's no signs of improvement in our R, but I can't control that. I can only try to control myself and how I respond to life.
