H contacted some friends yesterday who he hasn't spoke to since March. H spoke to their D as they were out.
Their D chatted awhile and then asked H how he was. There was a pause and then he said 'I'm not where I want to be at the moment'.He then chatted about ordinary things with no link to the statement he had made.
She was so shocked by this answer that she told her mum who rang me. Any ideas?
He's nuts, plain and simple. He's confused and is still looking for that brass ring. Of course, he's not where he wants to be, i.e., 18, single, having the time of his life. He honestly doesn't have a clue as to where he wants to be right now.
You've got to let comments such as this roll off your back. There's absolutely no way we can analyze his every sentence because he's bouncing all around and hasn't landed yet.
BTW, I'm glad you did something special for your special day.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I know I am behind in this but was catching up with your thread and wanted to comment on the pet thing...
My H loves animals and I would always say that the dogs got more attention than he did me and I have yet to see him do more than just a quick pat on the head since he left...
The kids tell me that he plays with OW's dog and it is the kinda dog he has never liked...go figure!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
Holiday packing finished and ready to go. All the kids are excited and despite the work I am looking forward to it as well. Dogs have gone on their hols to my mothers lol.
Had a meal with my family and friends yesterday to celebrate my birthday next week. Had a great time though there was once or twice when my thoughts drifted towards H but I brought them back again..............
S16 is showing anger towards his dad at the moment. This is the first time since the initial shock 12 months ago. At the moment this anger is being thrown my way. Its difficult but we will get through. Maybe the holiday will help.
Despite a very very small step forward on Wed after 10 weeks, when H rang and text me, nothing since. Not even to the children. Still sitting in his man cave thinking and reflecting. He obviously needs this time and space to continue his journey.
Thanks for all your best wishes. Back in the land of 'normality' now. Had a lovely birthday and holiday with the kids. Another hurdled crossed without H. It was difficult at times as we all missed him but kept a positive slant on things.
H text me happy birthday which was really unexpected and rocked me slightly. I have just seen his phone bill and he actually rang me on my birthday for 4 seconds and must have lost his nerve.
Then in the second week he text to say he had been to the house fed the cats, and dismantled the toilet as it had a leak and would be back next week to fix it.
When we got home it transpired that H had spring cleaned the two boys bedrooms, defrosted an upright freezer and put the cooker back together after I had cleaned it before the holiday.
Then I found 3 bottles of red wine in the rack along with a bottle of Irish whiskey, bottle of brandy and an empty bottle of port. The port was given to him on his 50th birthday. He had drunk it after he left. One bottle of wine and the whiskey and brandy are very dusty. I believe he has brought them back from a flat we lease. Question why didn't he take them back to OW? Also two of the bottles of wine are expensive red wine which OW drinks. So why are they in my wine rack?
Tonight I needed to text him about something that I thought he had taken by mistake. He text straight back and said no he hadn't got it. He then rang me and we chatted for 20 mins. During the conversation he referred to the house as 'home'. Normally he calls it by the village we live in. He also said he would see me this week when he visited the children and we would talk some more.
Another thing is he appears to be getting his credit cards under control and spending much less. I assume OW is still living with him.
I am staying very detached at the moment. Despite this I am baffled at what has happened over the last two weeks whilst we have been on holiday.
Sounds like you are doing a wonderful job staying detached and clear headed. H sounds like me might be poking his head out of the tunnel. Mine only does to snarl at me.
