I may of made a mistake but I am unsure, I texted ex on thursday and asked if he wanted to attend sons next parents meeting, this is where we get to meet sons new form tutor and discuss is life in staying on at the school for the sixth form, which is like college over in the uk, a very important meeting me thinks where we will discuss which subjects and paths son takes for his future employment. no reply from the ex whether he wanted to attend or not, I texted him the next day to say I would take his answer as no, as I have forms to fill in and return to the school, I also let him know that I have realised that communication as ceased once again between us due to the fact that I do his old aunts shopping, so be it, I told him I had stuck my neck on the block this time last year in getting him and son to communicate and seems now that I was wrong in doing that also, I told him I wished that he and son could remain friends and that I would no longer contact him regards son or anything else. he did try ringing me some four hours later but I missed that call and nothing since. I have also heard that ex is to carry the coffin of the friend that died, and I think what is going on in this mans head, during the time he was with me he lost his cousin, grandma, father and before that time his beloved mother, he didnt want to offer to carry any of his family into church, so why all of a sudden is he insisting he carries his friend ??????????? also been told that ex and wifey have taken over all the funeral arrangements for the friend and have left his wife very little say in anything at all. what a man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! xxxxxxxxxx
so anyhow ex did indeed help carry the coffin of his friend into the church!!!!!!!!! no contact to us only one quick call to son to say he couldnt take him to his training night as he was full of cold and not feeling too good, both son and I know the truth is he was on the beer all day and night after his friends funeral, why cant this man ever speak the truth xxx
Mandy, you really need to focus more on yourself and quit worrying about what your XH is doing or not doing. It won't ever change, all you can do is do for yourself.
Oh well looks like the crap as hit the fan again, ex had sorted some work experience out for son at wifeys family business.. all this sorted without any information to myself and only little to son. anyhow the ex called me yesterday with details of what was to be going on, and that he would pick up and drop of son monday and tuesday and wifey would pick him up rest of week. I informed son of the arrangements and he kicked off big style, not only about the arrangements not being as he had requested but about wifey picking him up, he said no way no how is she picking me up, I told son to go on public transport., well he texted dad to say he didnt want to do it anymore, ex phoned me and asked what was wrong with him, I told him exactly what I knew, ex said that he didnt want to talk to son right now but to tell him to rething his text to him, this I did., later on in the day when ex had got himself quite intoxicated he called to see if son had changed his mind, when i said not, he asked for his reasons, again I told him the same as this morning, he didnt want her picking him up, he then blew off the deep end saying he was very disappointed in son and he had never been so disappointed in him, he said he was no longer interested in son and wouldnt be in contact with him again, he cannot make him happy so there is not point. I told son this and then without me knowing son sent dad a text basically sayint it looks like they
are back to where they were, but it doesnt matter cos son is sick of dad calling him a failure etc, also said in the text that dad wont see in the future that he isnt a failure cos due to the fact he as f*******d up again he wont see sons future, so then I received a very angry ex on the phone calling me every name under the son, saying I had put son up to not doing this work experience and I had put son up to sending that text, he said I put the text together for him as son doesnt speak and spell like in the text. Go figure son was upstairs I was downstairs and didnt even know he had sent the text, I told ex I wasnt going to argue, I wouldnt speak to him when he phones up like this so I hung up. so thats it folks looks like the son and dad relationship is once again back to where it was this time last year. I bow out there is nothing more I can do xxx
I bet this is going to be repeated often ... in fact, every time your XH tries to foist wifey onto your son. Why doesn't his dad get a clue? Because he is clueless. If he is disappointed in your son, can you imagine how disappointed son is in his dad, who is a failure as a father, IMHO.
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he said he was no longer interested in son
As if he ever is interested, unless it suits him. I don't blame your son for sending that text. He was abandoned, then he is expected to just embrace the object that caused that abandonment.
Best you keep out of their issues. In fact, don't even take his calls. If he wants to talk to son then he can go through his mobile phone. What a damn cheek to blame it all on you?
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
BeingMe, I hear you my friend and thankyou for your reply. It is just as you have said, and also the fact that because wifeys parents own the business and her brother runs it, then ex will now be losing face in front of them with son kicking in and not going. if ex had kept the arrangements that son had asked for then it may well of gone ahead, son is fed up of dad organising things behind his back and expecting him to just walk up to the plate and do as he is told, at the end of the day son turns sixteen in a few weeks and yes he will rebel against his dad, Personally I think this storm as been in the cup for a fair few weeks or even more, it was just this that as brought it to a head once again. ex said some really awful things against son and I it was just like turning the clocks back to five years ago, oh well I presume that is him gone again, back into his wilderness, we will live and get on with life, ex as chosen his, if he wishes to get in contact with either of us he is old enough and wise enough to know how to do it, but I doubt very much if he will at all now, ah well rip ex xxxxxxxx
