My Wife is Having an Affair with Co-Worker

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Hi Allen,

I need to see the exact scripts you are giving to these people...

I do not have the exact scripts anymore. One of them is exactly like on mb28's sitch for exposing at the workplace. The neighbors was without a script. The parents speak only Japanese, and my Japanese ability is not so good. I am not able to communicate with them so well.

For the OMW, I found a script that seemed to be on target I thought for her. I don't remember it anymore.

I would discard them after because me and W still are in the same residence. We still sleep in the same bed too.


I assume OM's wife is filing for divorce as well?

She has not done it yet, but she is discussing it with a Lawyer. My W filed for our divorce.

Have you READ Divorce Remedy and Not Just Friends?

I am very limited on money since I am a stay-at-home father, and my W earns the income. She gives me no money for anything. I only learned by reading other peoples threads and from responses to my thread initially in the "newcomers" section.

Have you sat with your WS's parents sharing with them the guerilla db video I posted? No. Have you read protection.pdf I have also posted? Yes.


I dont reccomend trying to have "old times" with your wife while she is openly cheating on you...

I did not go out to dinner with her and the kids to my favorite pizza place because we use to go all the time as a family. I hope I made the right decision becauce I really did want to go. She asked me, and "I said go and have fun with the kids." Was this a good idea?

I would reccomend that you confront her about cell phone use in the home and contacting OM in the family home and insist she LEAVE the home if she's going to do that...

I did but she said "you can't control me." She said she pays the rent, and she will do what she wants to. Since I am a stay-at-home father, it seems I have very little leverage or influence on any decisions she makes.

following up with the point that infidleity harms children (always use the word infidleity, don't call it a "relationship" or anything else... call a spade a spade)

I remember reading you giving that advice, and I try to make sure I call it an "affair" or "infedility" but I must have been hurrying because she has been home from work all this week. I have to be careful that she does not find me on this site.

That's just a start, you need to start finding your dignity again in that home and stop letting yoru wife walk all over you... She will NOT return to a man she does not respect... And right now you are a doormat.

What are some ways that I can avoid being a doormat. I think I am doing much better these days. I try to not let her walk all over me at all. Any suggestions with examples, please? I want to get this right.

I did stop her from going on a trip to Vegas because I reminded her in a letter that she could not take the kids out of state do the Automatice Temporary Restraining Order. I cancelled or TM on joint cell phones. I have told her that she will not take the kids anywhere for July 4 tomorrow without me. I have done all I can do. I have made it clear that I will fight for my kids, and she knows this.

I hope I did not miss any of your questions.