I put him through grad school, waited 11 years to have kids, did 95% of the parenting...and once the end was in sight, what'd I get for my 22 years of faithful teamwork? Shoved off the summit in favor of a younger woman!
Very similar story here, Seeing. My H is a L, and although we put each other through grad school, I did choose to forego my career to raise our Ds, volunteer, and generally hold down the fort while he advanced his career. Just as we were becoming empty nesters and I was looking forward to more time with H, he started moving away. Now I realize that his success, while always appreciated by me, did not provide the validation he needed, but didn't get, when he was younger. I'm guessing that the attention of OW, the younger sister of a HS friend, is now confirming to him that he was, or should have been, a good catch back then.
I guess I saw his potential, but not the baggage. The "golden years" that I had looked forward to are now quite tarnished. I know I can find some polish somewhere, though, and with a little elbow grease, they should brighten up.
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
