How great for the ego to have the ladies looking at you. Have fun, be careful, etc!
As a friend who helped me survive this year said: anyone going thru a D who doesn't get arrested, fired, or forced into a 12 Step program is doing great!
I'm sure you will focus back on work soon enough. Work will always be there, right?
What a whirlwind crazy trip you have been on, and you are riding it out most successfully.
Fabulous Pearl - let me know if you want to use the cottage.
PMA clinging on by skin of teeth. Have had some good times, but also a couple of dates that I wished would lead to something but turned out they weren't interested. Still to meet the golfer who is having a particularly tough time with family bereavements and illness. Beginning to think something somewhere is trying to tell me we aren't ever going to meet up!
Work with the hideous OW on a more regular basis is looming as well. Only 4 weeks to go. Not looking fwds to that at all.
On the up have done some kiting, sorted out some of my work paperwork and done lots more playing music.
Just continuing to put one foot in front of the other, and try to do it with a smile on my face. Can't ask any more of myself.
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
As a friend who helped me survive this year said: anyone going thru a D who doesn't get arrested, fired, or forced into a 12 Step program is doing great!
I think this is very true. So far so good.
Had a lovely chat with a friend last week who said her demented gran is always smiling, and she finally found out why. She's remembering all the things she did when she was younger. So I should chase my dreams, and not sit in a chair aged 80 frowning because I never took opportunities that seemed difficult or at the wrong time. I want to be a cantankerous old biddy with a big grin on my face one day.
In the last couple of days I have made some major decisions. Career is not so important to me. I want personal satisfaction and fulfillment to be my priority. So I'm going to apply for a job in Antarctica which I've always wanted, try and go some other places I've wanted to, and generally get away from it all. It's been recieved in a mixed manner - some are telling me to go for it, these chances don't come along often, and some are telling me not to be making important decisions whilst I'm still emotionally labile. But I truly feel I've been handed some opportunities by this unholy mess that I need to take advantage off. I'm not where I should've been with a pregnant wife in our nice house in the country. I'm single, footloose and fancy free, and able to disappear for 18 months if I wish. I haven't told my bosses yet, and won't until I actually get the job, and am expecting a large backlash from them about throwing my career away. But I'm sure there'll still be a shortage of Emergency Med Docs when I return and I'll be able to support myself with locum work if no substantive training posts are available. Some say I'm running away. I say I I'm running towards my dreams.
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
Yep, doing my best. It is nice to have something positive to focus on as the unfortunate change in work to a hospital which will involve more of the OW is only days away.
I wish I felt more positive about the most important of all my dreams though - that of meeting the right woman and having a family. I still feel that one slipping from my grasp bit by bit.
And the WAW and OW continue to ride off into the sunset in their perfect little world.
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
Feeling really down today. Have had to fill out all the paperwork for the next bit of the rotation in August, including changing my next of kin, writing separated in all the marital status boxes, and looking out all the documents that prove who I am and what I've done.
It's been incredibly painful. I kept coming across little notes left by the WAW in years past, old cards from Valentine's/Birthday/Xmas that I just can't bring myself to throw away.
It is nearer every passing minute to the time I have to work with the OW for about 30 hrs out of my 48hr week. I don't know how I'm going to manage it. I feel like they are lording it over me. Grinning smugly and sitting at home telling everyone "look at poor sad Leesa, running off to the Antarctic, can't get a girlfriend because she's such an unattractive person. But look at us. We're perfect. We have everything. We are true soulmates and there was no other option than to end that bad, soulless, unhappy marriage."
I know none of that is true. But it still hurts that I know they're thinking it.
I think there probably always was little point in trying to bust a divorce between 2 people that have only been married such a short time, with no kids, and infidelity involved. Nothing that can or could've been done. Nothing but to try and save myself from being swallowed up by the need for revenge, for them to hurt just a little bit, to feel a tiny proportion of what they dealt me.
The world is a terribly unfair place. Where bad things happen to good people, and being an immoral, cruel, heartless pair of b1tches merely gets you your dream home, family and life of happiness.
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
It has taken 4 years for me, but I have never met her face to face. I am sure that wouldn't go well in any fashion at this point. She wouldn't have much hair left on her head.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Can anyone give me a hint as to when the desire to murder the OW wears off?
When you realize she did NOT get the prize being with a cheater/liar
although there is still question of why a woman would do that to another woman. I think for me and its been a LONG time ( 8 y rs) it was when I really did move on and neither her nor ex entered my head much ... that being said when ex dumped OW, I did smile... all day
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
I haven't read enough of your thread to know if you already answered it, but I can't imagine you'd be forced to work with the OW. If you talk to HR wouldn't they swing something?
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