bradley you seem like a good guy who is somehow incredibly wrapped up in what he does for a living
do you define your work or does your work define you do you define your relationships or do they define you
are you Bradley who happens to have been married to so and so and who is a cardiac so and so
Figgeroni -
MDs, lawyers, PhDs, entrepreneurs - there are some fields that are VERY demanding, VERY competitive and not for the faint of heart. There is no such thing as 9-5 in these industries, only 24/7. You have to be tough and tenacious to succeed and you need a partner who understands that. It's tough. But it can be very rewarding.
The amount of time required for med school and residency would not have been a mystery to a nurse. She knew what she was getting into, even if she didn't like it once she got there. EVERY doctor's wife I know complains about how much they work.
The only one I know who doesn't happens to be married to the team doctor for a Big 8 University football team (he's also in Internal medicine M-F); he takes her and their kids with him (all expenses paid) to all the bowl games the team plays in every year. They've been to Hawaii, Florida, California, etc. But my friend is a real trooper, a total exception. While her husband was seeing to players before a bowl game in FL, she took all 4 kids - ages 1-7 at the time - to Disney World BY HERSELF. I called her insane. She called it fun. It's all in the perception.
To have what others don't (a satisfying career in a competitive field), you have to do what others won't (lose sleep, not see each other for days on end). I'm not saying it's right, I'm just saying that's the way it is...
