Hope, I'm so glad that you're experiencing a bit of peace.
Regarding the childcare handoffs, I think you need to be clear on your motivations. I have been bugged by similar things with my STBXH, and have insisted on basic courtesy because I feel that it's important for our children to witness basic polite interactions between us. In your case, though, you need to do a cost-benefit analysis. If asking for that is going to create more conflict, then it's not worth it IMO, either for you or your S. Hopefully things will normalize eventually.
(((hugs)))
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
