Db not working, MLC spouse pushing D

[foreverhesaid]

Thanks Snodderly, I am trying to take things one step at a time and be logical. Its nice to be able to come here and vent and know that someone is listening.

My folks and siblings try to be supportive, but despite how circumspect I've been in what I've told them, they're full of 'dump the jerk and find someone better' type advice.

I understand, and realize that they didn't take the vow to love him forever. They loved him because I love him, and now that he's hurt me they want to see the end of him.

I ended up taking a long bike ride (16 miles - very long for me) and was thinking the whole time. I'm so sure that he thinks that piece of paper is suddenly going to legitimize everything he's done, but two wrongs are not suddenly going to make a right. I just keep thinking 'she's going to love you just as much as she did her first two husbands, and then start looking for number 4 once she's got you. Then maybe you'll understand how I feel." Faint hope I know, I shouldn't be worrying about him and their relationship, he has to figure that out himself. He even said to me once, 'I may be making a mistake, but have to try this and see...." I wanted to say, "how about trying our marriage?"

Ack, so many regrets, so much energy wasted worrying about this, so much pain endured and so much wishing he'd work on addressing his issues so that we could fix this.

Thanks for listening....