This guy is NOT irrelevant... She's known him for a long time yes?
This IC doens't sound like they have handled many successful infidelity cases...
I suppose online sex chat is "irrelevant" too?
What has to happen in the IC's mind for an online interaction to no longer be "irrelevant"?
If this is his way of handling online affairs, your IC is a fool and has likley done a lot of damage to marriages in my opinion... He's way too casual about the risks of infidelity in a marraige
And yes, I agree with pup, as long as she's fixated on OM she will be indifferent to your "vulnerability"
There are addicts on this forum who will hurt innocent children or abaondon them... does that sound like someone who will cave to you because you show some vulnerability?
