Opinioin on Calling OW -or should I say KID

[marie2235]

Thank you. Im sure everyone knows how hard it is to think staright when you are right in the middle of it. It's hard to take that step back and see things clearly and logically. You are right - it is my H who is disrespecting us. I guess I just thought that she needs to know we are real people and how her aprt in this is tearing apart other people lives.

At this point, there is nothing left for me to do, but tell him to leave. He knows that I love him and would do whatever it takes for us and our marraige, but I also know he checked out a long time ago and could care less. With me, he has turned into a hard, cold, uncaring liar.

According to the 20 year old kid, as quoted in a - of all things - Fathers Day card, which my husband was stupid enough to leave lying around, he is a "kind, loving, caring man and wonderful father."

WHAT? A good man cheats on his wife? Who lies to his children and tells them he can't spend time wtih them because he is too busy at work, only to find out he took the kid to the beach instead? And continued to lie about it, when I had the beach parking ticket in my hnad - not to mention he was covered in sunburn. She has got a few screws loose. I know she is young, but old enough to know right from wrong.

I keep asking myself is he too far gone..how do you know if there really is a chance, or when to give up? Im still young enough to try to go make a new life with somene else, but don't want to give up all the dreams and plans we have had for the past 20 years.

I dont know if he is going to change, to snap out of this - MLC or whatever it is, or I should face reality and create a new life for my kids and myself. I don't want to make a mistake. But I don't want to be miserable for years to come, either.

I did do something, however. Exposing - I went on FB and posted something about what he is doing, and who he is doing it with - figured it might make him asahamed or emabarrased. Although, everynoe he works with and a lot of people know, because he was too stupid to hide it. He didn't see it, but told me people made comments to him about my fB post - I got a dirty look and that was it. Still, I hope it made him stop and think.

Thank you, everyone.