wow.. is all I can say. you and I need to talk more.
so... I can feel your pain too. although my hard work was 10 years... with the light at the end of the tunnel, finally about to live life and then she bolts. but man I really don't like your husband. at all.
that is amazing that you have only met 3 nice wives in 20 years. I'm beginning to believe that may be true. Looking back I realize that my wife was not and has never been...nice.
when we were in my cardiac training two years ago she became close friends with a group of women who I believe were all WAW's-- one was from a cardiologist. they were re-living their youths, dating younger men, working out, going out, partying, and having a grand time. here I was thinking "how great that she found some friends". duh.
You hit the nail on the head that she wants me to fund her lifestyle and stay the F away. she's basically been cut off for some time now-- at first she had full access to my account.. then to the joint... now only what I give her. she would use the overdraw protection on the joint all the time... that had to stop. my lawyer said to continue to pay the requisite child support so I don't look like a total bad guy.
she does not want to let me have the kids because she jumped off the cliff, destroyed everything-- and the town where she lives I believe knows what she did. leaving me is not big deal. but keeping those boys away from their dad-- for only one clear reason.. people have figured that out. as reality has hit her in the last few months I believe she clings to them now as the only good thing about her identity. I think without them she is reminded of all of the lies, the deceit, the damage she has done. plus they fill her emotional needs to be loved and to love something.
I don't understand it either, except I believe she felt that she would be entitled to my money for being there that whole time for me once I was finished. I think she was planning an escape for some time.
her mother left her father for another man when she was 19. her father was away for much of her childhood and her mother essentially raised her and her sister alone...
