Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[Quicksilver264]

Ok so I had a meeting with my IC today, and we talked about a whole bunch of things.

One thing he said that stuck out was that he asked me why I wasn't showing my wife I am a flesh and blood person, and to maybe think about showing some vulnerability. Like don't just walk around moping, begging, or hurt, but display genuine feelings when I am feeling hurt. So she can see that she is really hurting a true person, and see the real effects she is having.

He used the analogy that if people had to kill for their own meat, there would be alot more vegetarians. Basically, if they had to inflict hurt DIRECTLY, much less people would do it. He seems to think that is she knows her actions are truly hurting me, then she might think twice about being so cavalier about it, and really take a look at what she is doing. He suggested I show some TRUE vulnerability, and SHOW her that I am emotionally outward and available.

I also discovered she was looking for condos today, meaning she is still 110% intent on getting out of her and getting her own place. I know this is a marathon, but it still hurts to see her soooooo determined.

Oh, and that Facebook guy just texted her back, but not about setting up the visit. So they are at least generally communicating now. Still nothing concrete to take to her parents, but now she can get her "high" again waiting for and getting messages from him.

Oh and he said the Facbook guy is irrelevant, and it is because she is SEARCHING for the attention, affection, and feeling that she is going elsewhere. He said there are 4 million other guys in the area, and I can't scare them all away. He said I need to focus on being the person what she always wanted, and she needs to see that it is right here at home and not anywhere else.

Any thoughts?