I don't believe the FT is soft either, but I don't like that you weren't given much direction on how to behave with him... distant or friendly? etc... Did they give you any plan at all?
If the first session was just information gathering then him talking about how he feels may just have him stirred up on his own...
The fact taht he's GOING is giong to affect his mood... His feelings are tapped into that he may not want poked at... He has to accept that he may remain in his marriage (FT DOES DO that from time to time)... etc
Just try to humour him until you can get more info...
I hope the FT is good at detecting lies... I suspect he may try to withold a lot of info from her...
