Thanks, Allen. Good input. I will talk to her about that and may move my appt. up in the week so I can speak with her sooner. Frankly, I think she feels I am coping so well that she wasn't really worried about me. She commented on how amazingly I am dealing with things. It's all because I have such a great support system - coming here and talking with my best friend every day.... and I do have a battle plan. It makes me feel in control of my life and the anxiety I have would be much worse without all of this! Anyway, her thoughts were really that she needed to have her session with him first to come up with anything further. Since H is all over the place, it's not like we know exactly what we're dealing with. Hopefully she was able to formulate more based on that session. She even told me that she does not believe in and will not be a "secret keeper". She does not believe in working through things in a hidden manner. This, in fact, may have brought out his actions, actually. If he feels he has to disclose everything to me - no wonder he is acting the way he is!
You also may be right in that she may have booted his idea that cutting and running would solve all his misery.
I agree that it would have been better for me to have some direction for the week. However, I do think the FT is not soft and will give me that direction next session. She's on board - or at least certainly seemed to be - with everything I discussed with her. Doesn't mean I can't add direction to it though. Him not saying anything about any of it does make me wonder if he intends to go back though. (He also is going out of town on business for a few days next week. So, we'll see.)
