Until you get more info from your FT it's best to steer clear of him... I really don't like that you weren't given any guidelines for the week with teh FT here... They just agreed to talk to your H after you and you got no direction or indication of what the battle plan is... not impressed...
He isn't feeling hopeless "in the marriage".. he FEELS HOPELESS.. PERIOD... big difference...
He BLAMES the marraige for how he feels... THAT is the distinction here...
People have feelings, they don't have feelings "in the marriage"...
I suspect the FT MAY have introduced him to the marriage myths or to the divorce myths...
This IS going to leave him off blance... A LOT of WS get their hopes up that an end to the marriage is going to make all their hopelessness and anxiety go away... Your FT may just have began to educate him that he's expecting too much from a piece of paper...
That's a WILD GUESS... I will admit again I do not like this "hidden agenda" business with the FT... you should know exaclty how she is going to be directing him and the content of each session from her end... HIS end can be private, but you SHOULD know what is being done in each session
A GOOD FT will realize if they do NOT let you konw what's going on this will AGGRAVATE anxiety that you likely already have... eventually making you ILL... For health reasons alone your FT should be putting you more in the loop...
Sorry, I don't mean to knock your FT, but you have a right to know how they are tinkering with your marriage... And them keeping you in the dark is going to give you additional alxiety... and LBS' already HAVE anxiety from their marriage being threatened by divorce... they don't need MORE.
