embracing change

[flowmom]

Thanks Romeo. Do you think that it would have been harder to get to anger if you saw your W's actions as honourable?

As for the disconnect between intellectual understanding and your emotional reaction...any chance you are protecting your H by "understanding" how and why he could do this and by not feeling the betrayal? Like not holding him accountable?

Also I remember reading somewhere that some of us deal with tragedy and fear by intellectualizing it...we numb ourselves to the pain by not feeling and just thinking.

Yes, I think you've nailed it newmama...thanks.