in their minds is also them helping us. Because not only have they convinced themselves that they will be happier this way, but because they feel that they are no longer hurting us if they are not there. Makes no sense but it is what it is...
This is very insightful. I get this from my W.
Of course she doesn't tell me this.
It is between the lines.
There is extreme guilt with them.
IMO also may be ashamed of their behavior.
It is also that they resent us too for being the stronger one?
Don't try to interpret his behavior and decisions too much.
Just know that what they are doing they are doing to themselves.
Not to us.
So this:
Originally Posted By: irish
I was so stunned - and hurt that this is preferable to living with me.
Will be less and less on your mind when you have detached from the situation.
Otherwise you will continue to be a victim of his choices...
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
