I am still wondering what happened "over there" as H refers to it.
DD16 said she talked with her dad today and he seemed different. Really talkative, joked, laughed, old dad. He still hasn't mentioned his change in living arrangements to her, but when he said he was making himself dinner, she asked why doesn't his girlfriend cook? she said he just made a noise...so if he hasn't told the kids they are not living together anymore, he is not committed to ending things w/her. (My reasoning...mind reading, I know, i know...)
Could be that...or he just wants some alone time to figure things out. That your DD 16 said he seemed 'like his old self' when he's not under the influence of OW is SO telling...can't all these WH see these bloodsuckers are no good for them? OW really are like crack or meth. C'mon guys - kick the habit already! Sheesh!
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That means he has to come here to get the car. Then drive to the show, hang out for a few hours, bring the car back.
Your WH has an antique car or something?
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My question is.. (now remember, he is a true cake-eater) How do I be? Do I maintain my cool but friendly distance? Or is this the time to open the door a bit more? Throw him a rope so to speak. Drop him a few crumbs? How can I draw him out, without pursuing. He is coming out, I am sure, but, the tightrope I am walking just got a bit finer..It now feels like a fishing line! I don't want to spook him nor do I want him to stagnate from a fear of my response. This is also a crucial time for him on getting through his addiction w/OW. The last 2 times (that I know of, I suspect more) he has given in to her pursuit. Does that all make sense? IDK. I am confusing myself here!
You might want to check with Allen or Puppy or Jack for a man's perspective on this, but I think a flirty little sundress and a 2nd date with your girlfriend for dinner and drinks might be interesting for him to see and ponder. Look good, be friendly, but remain distant. It will make him wonder what you're up to...
