You are in a unique situation considering that you operate a business with your H.
I do agree that you should do your best to separate those matters, which IMO, is exactly what you appear to be trying to do.
I understand that it must be very difficult to not pick up his slack because you want the business to succeed, actually you need it to be successful for your own financial future. Is there a way that you could begin to look for a job somewhere and leave the business to him to make or break?
It might do you both a world of good...
As far as filing for D, please don't ring a bell that can't be unrung. Unless you are really ready to do so. Why should you help him along with something that you don't want?
Mila, there are plenty of ways to set boundaries and move forward with your life that do not include filing for a D. Even if the possibility of remarriage does exist.
If the time comes for you to do that, you will know it and you will be able to be comfortable in that decision.
Have a great holiday!
(((hugs)))
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
