My Wife is Having an Affair with Co-Worker

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Neighbour 1 - response? I approached the neighbor about their D, and how it happened. She told me her H had 4 affairs, and then I discussed my situation with my W.
Neighbour 2 - response? I asked for help with my kids, and I had no money, so I told him about the affair, and he helps me to watch them from time to time because he is religious and hates affairs. He did not confront either.
Workplace (WHO at work - HR?) I called using a script from mb28's thread and customized it to fit my situation. I contacted HR anonymously first, and then I was told to call the Ethics hotline, and I used the script. Nothing I heard happened. HR said it was personal issue to work between us. No help.
What famly members in particualar? I told her sister to ask about the OM. I messed up completely, and W told her parents. This was before I knew anything about DBing. I sure could have used this site from day one.
OMW - response was? I used another script from here. OMW told me she knew he was going to cheat, and she was sorry it was done to my family. She and I met and I showed her my intel that I had gathered. She wants some e-mails I have, and I will give them to her. Attorney said it is safe and legal to do. I do not want to hurt my divorce if I cannot save the marriage.

I have made so many mistakes. I am NC as much as possible. We still live together, so it is difficult to do completely. I do not discuss our R. It is a little better these days, but she is still communicating with him, but she is very careful now. She filed for D first. I did not want to be the one to do it because I want my kids to someday know I did everything possible to save the marriage.

I have failed so far. This is my last chance.

I hope the above info. helps.

I thank you for stopping by my thread. I have admired the help you have given so many for so long. The help you gave to mb28 is the reason I am on DBing.

Thank you so much and everyone here that has helped me so far to get myself together. I am working on becoming a better person if anything.