embracing change

[ImprovedRomeo]

(((FM)))
Sorry you're having a tough day, just know it will pass and you'll be better tomorrow.

- 6-months is not set in stone or hold any scientific value so if you're not ready to decide you can extend it. If you are then you know you are...don't sweat it as if something will happen if you don't decide now. Some people have waited years and some have not so long- just all depends

- his b.day- again, up to you. My advice ignore it other than helping kids make him a card.

- you are a whole individual you don't need anyone else but sure it's nice to have family and friends around but you'll be OK. You'll be more than OK.

- no need to beat yourself up over the playdate issues, stuff happens with kids and I know you have an extra challenge with S7 but believe me we all have those days. You don't have to set up a playdate rightaway, give it a few days or a week(s) as you feel necessary.

- feeling lonely and mad...I know how that feels FM but all I can say is it's part of the process and while I can't say it won't happen again but it'll feel less intense.

- Sorry you're not feeling well and it's contributing to how you're feeling emotionally. I hope you get better soon.

I was stuck with internalizing what seemed like ages and I saw no way out of it. I remember you and others telling me to drop the rope but I couldn't figure out how. What happened then was STBXW turned into a gold-digging witch and taking me to the cleaners. Turning petty about $50 bills when I was paying her thousands. Even accusing me of things that never happened. I never expected this from her and couldn't believe it was the same person I shared my life with for almost a decade. So lately I've been listening to angry break up songs and feeling anger in general. I don't like it, I don't like the fact that she's doing this to me and how I could be so stupid and gullible but I guess according to the 5 stages it's progress. It'll happen, it'll happen on its own schedule and in its own way. All I can say is spending a decade with someone isn't always going to be rosey and we've all made mistakes but it was them that walked away not us. We would've moved mountains if they were honest to us and gave us a chance. Our lives weren't that bad that they had to just get up and leave...

((hugs))