My sitch continued, not sure why original thread

[MrBond]

"That may very well be true Mr Bond, but they dont mean anywhere near as much to me as they would if it brings WAW back to me. "

Then your "changes" aren't sincere. If you're only doing them for her, then IF you get back together again and things get comfortable, you're going to go right back to the way things were before.

This is the reason why your W can see right through your "changes". No one makes a lifelong change to themselves just for another person. It's something they WANT to do because the feel it makes them a better person as a whole. Not because they think it's going to get them something.