Otherwise it shifts from unconditional love into martrydom, "Look at me, look at all I've done for you", and then if you disaapoint them "After all I've done for you, you let me down". It may or may not be said, but it sure has been implied...the Marie Barone philosophy (see Everybody Loves Raymond for further examples)
I have gotten off the martyr train after learning the routine from my own mom. So much better NOT being that way!
