So do you think it was OW's fault that the EA happened? I noticed you used the same expression of your W falling victim to an EA herself. Do you really think either one of you fell victim?
Seems like a lot of stuff has gone on. Doesn't mean that things couldn't work out in the future but until that pattern isn't broken, it will continue to be a repeat.
Being able to see our mistakes and learn is valuable. Time apart may be good for both of you to do work on yourselves.
If you don't get much response in this forum, you may want to try the Newcomers. Just try to shorten the post. People use to tell me I wrote novels, but then I discovered some just don't like reading long ones, so I try to keep it down.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
